Most of us have had that one crazy friend. The one who can read the mischief on your face, and give you the little push needed to start a new adventure. She was emotional, beautiful, confident, extroverted, and encouraged me to embrace my weird. We were inseparable. I recall hours talking about fictional characters as if they went to school with us, enjoying crazy nights out supporting local bands, and those sleep overs staying up talking about boys. No one knew me like she knew me.
Then one day, I told her I was pregnant. That was the day I lost my best friend. Out of all of my friends, she was supposed to be the most supportive and encouraging, but she wasn’t there for me like I hoped she would be. Everyone else whom I thought would judge me for being a mother at 20 were amazing. They asked questions, they asked how I was feeling, they told me everything will be okay. I was scared, and my best friend wasn’t there to tell me that this was a new adventure, and to embrace it.
She was still there in the shadows, politely making small talk, and offering me her friendship from afar. I would hear of her wild nights out with her new friends, supporting local bands and meeting new boys. My tales of nights spent at home with my partner, feasting and watching cheesy films just did not compare… My nights were perfect.
I realised that I had a new best friend. Someone I could lounge around the house with, play fight with, talk about anything with, plan a future with. Out of love, we created a tiny human being, and that is a special bond. As my little girl grows into a young lady, I am going to encourage her to embrace her weird, teach her to be adventurous and support her no matter what.
We may not be close friends now, but still we see each other every now and then. I will always cherish the adventures we had, and appreciate the times she made me feel ‘normal’.
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Hello there, i wanted to firstly say thank you for leaving such a concise and supportive comment on the Commons, I tried to reply there but I couldn’t find it anywhere LOL…..it is great to get feedback esp positive 😀
Also what a great post here, you have the memories it is sad that you lost her but I guess some people aren’t ready for the move on in life and might be scared of it, or the maturity you yourself would have gotten in that situation, maybe she didn’t have that and that is understandeable. When she is in similar situation perhaps you will get closer. But like you say you have your other half and a child and perfect nights 😀 And a whole bunch of memories, I had a friend like that still is a great friend we just don’t sadly live near each other xxx
Some friends come and go, are there for a season for some kind of reason.
Children are a blessing. Someone who does not have them does not understand this.
Someone once told me, ” there are two types of people in this world; those who have children, and those who don’t.”
To a certain extent I believe that.
People grow, and change at different rates… that’s life 🙂